One of my co-workers is reading a book called Stop Walking on Eggshells. It's about learning to live with someone who has borderline personality disorder. In the front of the book it has a little quiz, "This book might be right for you if..." It then goes on to list a bunch of scenarios. As my co-worker read down the list I was thinking, Wow, this smacks of the relationship I have with Cybil and Cybil was right there saying, "YES! YES! YES!" Cybil then goes on to say, "Oh the two I LOVED the best were...." Oddly these two traits that she considered the BEST were ones that described herself.
I, of course, couldn't say anything at the time but after lunch I went into the gal with the book and said, "Are you afraid to voice your opinion for fear of an irrational outburst?"
I pondered picking up the book as I am a definite eggshell walker with Cybil but one of the things in the little quiz that came up over and over was the tone that this was someone you cared about, someone you wanted in your life and needed to find a way to make it work without being the one that is always giving and giving in.
Might be worth the ten bucks, but I don't really care about Cybil. I've made my peace with the time I've already wasted on her and don't need to waste anymore.